The goal is to manage bullying, to reduce the frequency and the intensity of bullying. Society, witnesses and victims of bullies can do things to try to reduce the problem of bullying. A few things that people can do appear below:
Parents and teachers need to avoid insults, and harsh and physical punishment. Try to model methods of solving problems and resolving conflict that do not involve bullying.
Siblings in families can be taught how to settle disagreements through talking, not fighting.
Teach children the types of behavior that are bullying. Children need to be informed that all forms of bullying are wrong.
Reward children and students for strengths in non-academic areas.
Schools can be encouraged to provide adequate playground, bathroom, changing areas, and hallway supervision.
Focus efforts on children in Elementary School (Grades 1 to 6). By starting with young children, it might be possible to keep bullying from becoming a habitual way of acting.
Teach children the contributions of different minority groups to society, so they can better understand that people who are different are important members of society.
Encourage schools to offer anti-bullying programs.
Adopt policies that bullying will not be tolerated in schools, work places, and churches.
Talk to local police departments, so they understand the seriousness of bullying and are prepared to work with school and community groups.
Help people learn how to establish strong, healthy relationships. Children can be encouraged to get involved in youth groups and clubs, so they can develop positive friendships.
Teach children assertive communication skills. For example, a student could say, "I do not like being teased."
Talk to witnesses of bullying. Let them know they have a responsibility to report bullying.
Build up the self-esteem and self-worth of people who are bullied. Find positive things the person does and praise them for those things. Parents can avoid calling their children names, as that reduces a child's self-esteem and self-worth.
Write to television stations and professional sports organizations to request that violence on television and in sports be reduced.
Offer kind, caring support to the victims of bullying.
Be a friend to a person who has been bullied.
Strategies for Victims of Bullying:
No matter what you do, you will run into times when people bully you. The goal is to reduce the frequency and the intensity of bullying. Every time you are able to avoid being bullied, you won a victory. Each time you managed to keep bullying from being a physical confrontation, you won a victory.
The strategies listed below should be discussed with a caring adult who knows you and who knows the bully before the strategies are implemented.
Reduce the number of times you are bullied, by walking, dressing and acting like a person who will not be an easy target.
Try not to show fear. Act confident. Walk and hold your body like a confident person.
Dress and act like confident and assertive people. Bullies tend to pick on those who look like easy targets.
Use assertive posture, body language.
In most North American cultures, make and maintain eye contact when talking.
Avoid isolated places, where bullies can operate without witnesses.
Go places in small groups. Bullies find it more difficult to pick on a group of people.
Use humor, not insults, to deflect the bully.
Work to make friends. Join clubs or groups, so you can make friends. People who have more friends are less likely to be bullied.
Be willing to ask friends or adults for help. At school, you can talk to a teacher, the counselor, the principal or another adult. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness.
Whenever a person calls you a name or bullies you, remind yourself of your value. Say to yourself, "I am a good person and I am valuable, even when people do not treat me like a valuable person."